Natural Healing

Wednesday, 8th August 2012

Healing Hurts

Every one of us gets hurt at some stage in our lives. If we are truly honest with ourselves, we feel our own pain as well as the pain of others. People often say to me "I have been hurt, but I cannot express my anger, what can I do?" I say "Just for now, begin to look immediately within yourself and ask yourself why you are hurting."

I see hurt as a negative memory that still has the power to upset us. But we have a choice: we can choose to allow that memory to still have influence over us, or we can choose to try and break its hold over us. It is not always an easy thing to do, but it can be done. Helen Keller said "The world is full of suffering, it is also full of people overcoming it."

The first step is to be fully aware that the negative memory is causing the hurt, and then to accept that the hurt is of no use to us. Say to yourself "Thank you for my life lesson. I am aware of being hurt. I now release anything in my past and present that does not serve my higher good. So be it." Don't be too hard on yourself. In fact, do the opposite: be kind to yourself! What is blocking our own well-being is nothing more than a lack of love. When we forgive ourselves, we start to cleanse all the negative memories within us, and break their hold over us.

Dr Howlen, an eminent psychologist, says that everything you seek and everything you experience everything! is inside of you. If you want to change anything, you do it inside, not outside. The whole idea is total responsibility. But there is no blame here. It is no-one's fault: not yours, and not the person who caused the hurt. It may be hard to forgive yourself, but it can be even harder to forgive the other person. But true healing will never take place until you forgive both you and them.

At the core of our beings is our divinity. The universe is always sending us messages that are inspiring to our true self. But if negative memories and feelings of hurt take over, then we cannot hear our true self, let alone act on it. We are sometimes too busy with the noise in our heads to hear the truth!

So the first stage in healing hurts is awareness: next week I will say more on cleansing them and breaking their negative hold on us.